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Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@jami Hi Jami. Is your pets’ name Nobermin? What kind of pet was Nobermin? We’d love to hear about your lives together. Are you doing okay?
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Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@ann040961 Hello Ann. Please tell us about your pet/s.
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Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@roydawn Hi Dawn. I am sorry for your loss of Sparky. Please tell us about Sparky and share some photos. How are you doing? Okay, I hope.
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Sigrid posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Maureen, Romeo looks adorable. Great name for him. I am so sorry you lost him. And yes, the trauma of losing him can dredge up old pain and unlived grief. You can dedicate your recovery to him by dealing with what needs to be dealt with. Bring it up, give it space and acknowledge it, hopefully with the help of a good friend or a therapist. I hope I am not overstepping here but I am talking out of my own experience. I know it sounds weird but you can consider it Romeo’s gift to you, getting rid of old aches and pains so you can love again. You are courageous to talk about your pain, that’s the first step, not suppressing your grief. as you did in the past. Your love for Romeo did that! Thank him and honor him by continuing on that path. -
Maureen posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
Hi, I haven\’t commented here since my first one and I was very thankful for your response. Unfortunately, I am still in a bad place over losing my Romeo. I wake up and cry every day. I relive that morning over and over again. I am so depressed and nothing is helping me to climb out of this dark place I\’m in. I hate feeling this way and I\’m trying to get better, but, this trauma has only been bringing out many things from my past that have happened which I have been suppressing for many, many year I still isolate and I don\’t think of the future at all. I just get up and go through the motions of each day and that\’s it. I just wish I could go back in time and hold my boy and kiss him and cuddle him once more, but,I know that\’s not possible.
I\’m tired of this pain and I wish this was all a dream.
Thank you for letting me speak about my heartache. 💔
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Maureen, Romeo looks adorable. Great name for him. I am so sorry you lost him. And yes, the trauma of losing him can dredge up old pain and unlived grief. You can dedicate your recovery to him by dealing with what needs to be dealt with. Bring it up, give it space and acknowledge it, hopefully with the help of a good friend or a therapist. I hope I am not overstepping here but I am talking out of my own experience. I know it sounds weird but you can consider it Romeo’s gift to you, getting rid of old aches and pains so you can love again. You are courageous to talk about your pain, that’s the first step, not suppressing your grief. as you did in the past. Your love for Romeo did that! Thank him and honor him by continuing on that path.
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Maureen, it hasn’t been very long since you so suddenly lost Romeo and it’s understandable that you are grieving still. The pain of parting is deep and unlike any other. I like what Sigrid shared – perhaps there is a gift from Romeo that will allow you to heal even beyond his loss. Thursday you will receive an email with the access to our group support session and I hope we see you there. It may help to talk about Romeo with our caring and understanding friends. Please be kind to yourself Maureen. You were kind and loving for Romeo and deserve the same. {{HUGS}} Toni
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I dont know who I am posting this to, but, I hope it gets to both Sigrid and Toni.
Sigrid, thank you so much for reaching out to me. I am trying my best to work through all of this horrible pain. Romeo was the best boy and I am so lost without him. 💔
Your advice to me was very helpful and maybe you are right about Romeo sending me a gift. Although, I can’t grasp the idea totally because I dont understand why he would want me to be in such pain. But, I do know he wouldn’t want me to be. I thank you for helping me to see things in a different way. I am so raw right now and want all this heartache to stop. 💔Toni Noel, thank you for your kind words to me. I don’t feel like I deserve to be kind to myself because at his last moments, I was in a complete panic. I didnt know Romeo was dying, I thought he was just not feeling well. when I picked him up he cried out and his eyes looked dizzy and he couldnt hold up his little head so I laid him on my bed to comfort him. I was stroking him and talking to him and telling him it’s gonna be okay , but,I think he was already gone. I didn’t know he was dying and I blame myself for not realizing that and try to save him by doing something. I should have done something. I never got the chance to tell him all the things I needed to tell him. It’s all such a nightmare.
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Maureen, we are seeing your messages fine. Our community is based on kindness, sympathy and understanding and any comments are made from a point of sincere concern and the hope we bring some comfort. You experienced a traumatic shock and it is understandable that you are not only grieving, but questioning what happened. Intellectually, we know we don’t have a lot of control over the end of life. We can provide a relief with euthanasia when we know of health issues, but often our pets just come to the end of their given lifetime. Same with humans. From what I’m reading, you did any and everything that could be done for Romeo. He was with you at the end, in the warmth of your love. If you can join our group tonight it may help you to talk with us. If not, please stay engaged with us here. We’re thinking of you. {{HUGS}}. Toni
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Maureen, I am glad you were able to see things from a different perspective. I am not religious but I know for sure that talking to Romeo will be good for you and maybe he’ll hear you. Nobody can prove the opposite so you might as well hold on to this comforting thought. And you are right, he would not want you to suffer. As Toni said be kind to yourself and put your love and grief in words and send them to Romeo. Friends hear you, this community hears you, and Romeo may hear you. You love him and he had a good life with you. Not that this is the time to think about that but you’re a good mom and there may be other dogs out there that need you once you are ready. You’ll never be able (nor would you want) to replace him but there is need out there for care and love that you can give just like you did for Romeo.
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Thank you so much for your kindness.
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Nancy posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
He was 15 I had him since he was 6 months I adopted him at the spca in camden de -
Faye posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
Toby was a Jack Russel. I miss him very much. He was my son\’s service dog. My son was hurt in Iraq. He always was so happy to see me as i was him.-
Faye, first I want to thank your son, and your family, for serving. I am sorry your son was injured and wish you all well. I hope things go well for you. I am also very sorry Toby had to say goodbye. It’s so hard to lose a dear, close, beloved friend. Not that anyone could ‘replace’ Toby but if your son needs a service dog will you find another? If so, please share that with us. We support Canine Companions for Independence – https://canine.org/. I don’t know if their special breeds are suitable for your son but they may be able to help you. I am sending you my sympathy and hope to hear more from you. Toni
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Kyle posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
It’s been so difficult without Presley 💔miss her so much…
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Katherine posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Maryann: I feel your pain. The grife had no time limit ,just tak it one day at a time. My litte Shadow has bee gone for 1 year this month he was only 3 years 0ld 7 months after my loving husband passed. So my grief was doubled. But think of all the loving memories help some but still miss them both very much. Sorry you having such tough time. Maybe you could have someone send you photos of some adoption kitty’s, 0r dogs,than if you see one Maybe asked if they could bering the kitty to you or dog n just sn idea. Prays going out to you. -
Maryann posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
That’s a lovely idea but I am housebound and get around with a walker and wheelchair so that isn’t possible for me to do. Penny was the light in my life behind all the darkness that I experienced since May 2020. She has been gone 6 weeks and I miss her so much. -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Diana, this is a time of extreme loss and grief for you both. A neutral party, like a couples therapist, may be able to help you both communicate through this troubling time. Grief will find a way to express itself and I hope you allow yourself to get it out. Did you know the chemicals in tears of joy are different than in tears of grief? I think that says a lot about the need to physically express our pain – it helps cleanse some toxins when we cry. Let us know if you and your husband visit a therapist. I hope you find some effective ways to move forward together. {HUGS} -
Diana posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Buddy is the one remaining cat of the original pack and he is now on thyroid meds / just in the last two months. He is sad. He used to have 4 siblings he could sit on the deck with or sit at the pool with Pixar his older bro he antagonized for years but now all the newer cats and kittens will not be going outside. Two are Egyptian Mau breeds and I fear I will never see them again if they get their freedom to run (up to 40km p/hr apparently!). The kittens are just too young of course and frankly I don’t agree cats should be let to roam – getting out with supervision is much different but I have trained my Egyptians to stay in now after 6 years but my husband loves his outdoor time with Buddy and I know he misses Pixar at the pool or Skank catching rays on the deck with her hubby Daddy (bozo’s parents) and wants to see Buddy happy too – so it’s a bit of an argument between us about the kittens and how we train them….ugh! -
Diana posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Thank you Toni. I find it difficult to share my true grief – my husband will break out in sobs and it makes me uncomfortable and also feel like why is HE so upset? It was ME who raised her She was MINE! And if I want to cry he protests and says things like let’s not cry about that now. I WANT TO CRY. I feel my marriage is breaking apart because of our losses (x4) in less than a year has been more either of us has ever dealt with and we don’t know how to deal with each other either. It doesn’t help with the grief when your marriage isn’t going well either. -
Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
Sincere, heartfelt gratitude to those who contribute to our caring Community with both your stories, and monetary contributions. It means so much to have the support of one another, knowing we are here to care for, and about, you and your beloved pets. We are truly grateful. ❤️Toni
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Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@samsiel Elizabeth, clearly you are an animal lover and I am sorry for your losses. May we hear about your babies, see some photos of them?
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Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@carolyngann Hello and welcome Carolyn. Please tell us about your pet, and let us know how you are doing. Okay, I hope? Toni
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
How nice of you, Jennifer. Thank you for your caring, and sharing with us. I look forward to meeting you Thursday. Toni -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Dana, I remember Grunt-Grunt. She was such a little trooper and I am so sorry she was unwell. You are understandably heartbroken. What kindness and caring you shared with her. It’s hard for us to second-guess our actions and it’s easy to find ways to feel guilty, but you had vet care and nursed her and she knew how much you loved her. I hope you will be as kind to yourself as she would want you to be. We wish we could have our pets with us forever but they are only on loan to us, never for long enough. Please join our group meeting this Thursday – it helps to talk about it. You’ll get an email with the log-in. I am glad you shared with us here, Dana, and hope you will continue to do so. We’re here for you. {{HUGS}} Toni -
Dana posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
Well it\’s been quite some time since I posted last. Last time I had an adorable Pug Grunt-Grunt, so named for the little grunts she made when she was happy. Well, when I got Grunt-Grunt her left eye was damaged. In March of 2022 her injured eye ruptured and had to be removed. That was $1200 I didn\’t have, but I couldn\’t let her go either. She healed well from the surgery. But for about a year before that she\’d been suffering from Pug myopathy and could wobble at best without assistance. So I found this great charity called High Rollers Club, and they supply dogs with wheelchairs, and you return the chair when you are no longer using it. Well, that dreadful day came for me on 12/30/22 at 4:10pm. Grunt-Grunt had quit eating on Christmas Day, but had shown no signs of being sick until then. When we got to the vet I was told that there was nothing they could do for my baby girl. She had a horrible infection and even if I put her in the ER she wouldn\’t make it. Why?!?!?! She was such a happy little dog who\’s life started out with abuse and neglect. She was my world, got me through so many dark days. I would\’ve done anything to save her, even traded my life for hers, but then I wouldn\’t have been here to care for her. I feel so much guilt over her death, if I just would have known that she was sick, I could have saved her. She deserved to live and love for many more years. She would have turned 12 this May. I miss her so much.-
Dana, I remember Grunt-Grunt. She was such a little trooper and I am so sorry she was unwell. You are understandably heartbroken. What kindness and caring you shared with her. It’s hard for us to second-guess our actions and it’s easy to find ways to feel guilty, but you had vet care and nursed her and she knew how much you loved her. I hope you will be as kind to yourself as she would want you to be. We wish we could have our pets with us forever but they are only on loan to us, never for long enough. Please join our group meeting this Thursday – it helps to talk about it. You’ll get an email with the log-in. I am glad you shared with us here, Dana, and hope you will continue to do so. We’re here for you. {{HUGS}} Toni
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I’m still grieving hard for her. Adopted another dog, poor thing was so traumatized it was awful. She’s coming out of it a little at a time. Will write more about her later.
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How kind of you to adopt, Dana. Can you inagine being stuck in a cage in a strange place and not knowing why or what happened? Poor little thing. What is her name? Can you join us this Thursday and talk about Grunt-Grunt with us? Toni
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I’m sorry I missed the group. If you have one again, please send me the information. Thank you. The new dog’s name is Lexie-Loo-Who. I’ll write more about her later. She is sweet.
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Laxie-Woo-Who. I’ll bite. What’s the story behind the name? I am sorry we didn’t get to hear from you, Dana, and hope to see you in August. The links and login are under “Events” for each month, and the day of the meeting we send an email with the same. Don’t wait until then to tell us about Lexie-Woo-Who. Tell us the story and share photos, please. You are an angel to open your home and heart to traumatized and maligned babies. It takes a lot of time, patience, kindness and love to help them feel safe and comfortable with you. I applaud you🤗❤️Toni
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The name Lexie Loo Who just came to me when we got her. I have a habit of putting the first letter of the name with oo behind it on a lot of dogs. The Who came from the little girl in the Grinch, Cindy Lou Who. She has blossomed so much since we brought her home. When we got her she hadn’t been groomed in months, was filthy, matted stinky and had a horrible ear infection in both ears. She spent the first month sitting on the arm of the couch and shook. She was so traumatized. It just broke my heart. She’s an 8 yr old apricot cockapoo, with little dark patches. Now that she’s been groomed she’s so cute. There were a couple of coincidences that told me that I was doing the right thing by adopting her. First when I got Grunt-Grunt it was 2 wks after I lost Ladiebug. I picked Lexie Loo up 2 wks after I lost Grunt-Grunt. Second they were both 7yrs when I got them, Third both turned 8 in May after getting them. Four we left the house at 1:15 when going to let Grunt-Grunt go, and…
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Dana, what a great story. I’ve read it twice already! You are very kind people to care so well and so much for these babies.🤗 It’s easy to post some photos of Lexie Loo Who. Just click the camera icon on the lower left of the comment box and upload from your device. We’d love to see her, and Grunt-Grunt’s house . That’s quite a story behind the name. I’m going to post about my foster kitten and will share the backstory of what I’m naming him. Thank you Dana, for sharing with us. Please continue to do so, and we want to see pictures 🙂 {{BIG HUGS}} Toni
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Jennifer posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
Toni
I also want to thank you for this site. I can tell that this site offers alot of care and kindness for ppl going through hard times-
How nice of you, Jennifer. Thank you for your caring, and sharing with us. I look forward to meeting you Thursday. Toni
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