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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 2 months ago
Beverly, how very sorry I am, we all are. The love we share with our non-human loves is at a deep cellular level and saying goodbye is absolutely brutal. You say it well: your home and heart are empty. But Beverly, your soul is enriched from sharing a loving life with Chloe. It seems unfair they are only “on loan” to us and we have to let them go. This is not, will not, be easy and you need to allow yourself the tears and pain, but please also allow the smiles and joy of the good times you had together. The hardest, kindest, most generous and selfless act we make is to provide relief and release with a comfortable passing. I found some comfort sleeping with a stuffed toy and was maybe too quick to give away all of my girl’s things. I posted a memorial tribute to her here:https://www.faithfulfriends.com/memorials/
I had a canvas 16″ X 20″ picture made of her and I pet it and talk to her every day. That helps. (That’s my girl in the photo): https://www.faithfulfriends.com/shop/pet-poster/
You may not be ready to open your home and heart to another for awhile, if ever, but in a surprise move of the universe, a young cat came into my life ten days after BG and I parted and I can tell you he turned me around, made me realize my girl was ready to go and let another little life come be loved. Please stay here with us. Melinda said goodbye to her Ava, Kristi lost Apache, Marilyn and Splinter parted…. so many of us are or have been going through this terrifically powerful time and we are here for you, and for one another. Sending you a heartfelt {{HUG}}. Toni -
Melinda posted a new activity comment 4 years, 2 months ago
So sorry for your tremendous loss. Love, prayers and peace in this difficult time.💖🐾🙏
I lost my four legged daughter Ava a year ago this last April. She was a rescue and my shadow for eight years. Rescued her at three and passed at age 11. She was a sweet, loving sensitive soul. So missed and always loved and remembered.Hold onto all the wonderful memories you have of her for comfort. I had no children, so I understand about her being your child. Mine is that for me also. -
Beverly posted an update 4 years, 2 months ago
I lost my best friend of 11 years Saturday. We have been fighting diabetes for 17 months. We got diagnosed with this damn disease on March 31, 2021 and it took most of her vision within one month. She started getting sick last week and had to be admitted in the hospital on Friday. Saturday morning the vet called me and told me her bloodwork wasn\’t any better and her kidneys were shutting down. I got to spend a couple hours holding her and telling her how much I loved her. He let me stay with her while he done what I knew had to be done. The only peace I kind find is that the last thing she heard was her Mommy telling her how much she loved her. This was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. She wasn\’t a dog. She was my litle girl. My child. It never mattered to me that she had four legs and a tail and I didn\’t give birth to her. She was my baby as much as my two boys ever were. She slept in the bed with me every single night for 11 years. I haven\’t even been able to sleep in my bed since Thursday night. My apartment is so lonely. She has left a hole in my heart that will never be filled. I don\’t know how to get past this. It is a hurt like nothing I have ever felt before. Chloe will forever be my baby girl. -
Melinda posted an update in the group
Remember 4 years, 2 months agoThis was my Ava Nika. She was born on July 28, 2009. She passed away April 21, 2021. She was a rescue of severe neglect and abuse. She was my shadow for eight years. A loving, sweet, and sensitive soul. She lives on in her daughter\’s Addie and Mira. She was a best friend to talk to, a snack and tv buddy. Once she found out what it was to be loved and how to play and be a dog, she thrived on play time, car rides and walks. She is so missed and loved, but will always be remembered, especially on her birthday. Her love, loyalty, and dedication will never be forgotten. She was and will always be my Princess. Thanks for adding her. This candle means a lot.💖🐾😊 -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 2 months ago
You two look happy in your new digs. Does Benny like going out in the new area? -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 2 months ago
I am so sorry to hear that. Getting away is often the safest thing to do. Do you have any pets with you now? -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 2 months ago
Marilyn, I know it’s really hard and hurts, but the pictures of him show how happy he was – he has so many looks. Your family did a wonderful thing to share a happy, safe and loving home and life with Splinter (love the name, and thanks for explaining how he came by it). Do you think you will open your home and hearts to another? -
Shawn posted an update 4 years, 2 months ago
I moved had to so my spouse cant find me
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I am so sorry to hear that. Getting away is often the safest thing to do. Do you have any pets with you now?
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Yes i was able to keep 2. Panda shes 13 and Bubba hes 6. I had 8 dogs total where i was living at. And my husband lost his mind he started hallucinating hearing voices and alot of other stuff. But he really had gotten violate over the past 3 yrs. We have been married for 29yrs. And i put up with mental and physical abuse. When he started all my dogs went and hide. They was always there for me to comfort me. I had him put in jail again in April 2022. He couldnt find anybody to come post bail so he stayed in for almost 3 mos. He shoulda stayed in longer. But i had been trying to move since October 2021. When he was put in jail then. But anyway he threatened to blow my head off with his shotgun in April and something clicked in my head said get him away from there. We had a 27 yr old son that has downs syndrome and autistic. Hes 24/7 care. He has the mind span of like a 3 r 4 yr old hes still in diapers also. He saw his dad hit me so he started doing it. But hes stopped now. But…
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Cody posted an update 4 years, 3 months ago
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You two look happy in your new digs. Does Benny like going out in the new area?
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago
Kristi, I am so sorry. It hurts in a way nothing else does, and is deep within. You feel empty, the house is different – everything is changed because Apache was so much a part of your whole being and daily life. It’s brutal to say goodbye regardless of age or health status. But…and I know this is hard, he would want you to be joyful for the life you shared, and is grateful to you for your caring love, as you are for his. I found holding and sleeping with a stuffed animal very soothing when my Beauty Girl passed. I take comfort in the memorial tribute I posted here for her, and with time, as I think of her age and illnesses, I know in my head we had an incredible life together. It’s your heart and soul that are hurting you so much right now and I hope sharing with our caring community brings you some relief. When you feel like it, will you show us some pictures of him, and tell us more? I hope you will come to our online group gathering Thursday August 25th at 8 PM Eastern (5 Pacific) and you can share more with us. I am sending you my sincere sympathy and hope you find smiles before tears with your sweet memories of Apache. ToniFor your reference:
Join Zoom Meeting – August 25th 8 PM Eastern
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87168748114?pwd=Rkw2ZEJmZ3U0TVF3ZCs5aUxPaVlhdz09
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Kristi posted an update 4 years, 3 months ago
So tonight I lost my baby boy Apache. I am so heartbroken I don’t know what to do. He was 14 but was still my baby boy. How do I go on without him
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Kristi, I am so sorry. It hurts in a way nothing else does, and is deep within. You feel empty, the house is different – everything is changed because Apache was so much a part of your whole being and daily life. It’s brutal to say goodbye regardless of age or health status. But…and I know this is hard, he would want you to be joyful for the life you shared, and is grateful to you for your caring love, as you are for his. I found holding and sleeping with a stuffed animal very soothing when my Beauty Girl passed. I take comfort in the memorial tribute I posted here for her, and with time, as I think of her age and illnesses, I know in my head we had an incredible life together. It’s your heart and soul that are hurting you so much right now and I hope sharing with our caring community brings you some relief. When you feel like it, will you show us some pictures of him, and tell us more? I hope you will come to our online group gathering Thursday August 25th at 8 PM Eastern (5 Pacific) and you can share more with us. I am sending you my sincere sympathy and hope you find smiles before tears with your sweet memories of Apache. Toni
For your reference:
Join Zoom Meeting – August 25th 8 PM Eastern
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87168748114?pwd=Rkw2ZEJmZ3U0TVF3ZCs5aUxPaVlhdz09
Meeting ID: 871 6874 8114
Passcode: 024970
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Dianne posted an update 4 years, 3 months ago
Hello everyone.
To those who has recently lost their beloved companion, I offer my deepest condolences.Losing your best friend is very hard.I totally understand how you feel.I have lost my mama cat last November.She was struck by a car,and she died quickly.She would have been 16 years old.
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Toni Noel posted an update 4 years, 3 months ago
@shianne Suzanne, how are you doing now? {{HUGS}} Toni
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Hi Toni,
Sorry I’ve been so out of touch. Thank you for thinking of me and checking in. I meant to let you know I would be unable to make the August zoom meeting as I was doing last minute vacation preparations, as I left the next day for twice two weeks to visit family in NH. I was also very worried about whether or not I’d be able to get one of my two new boys into the carrier to bring to NH with me. Thankfully all worked out and the 4 of us made it safely to NH and back again. I fulfilled my promises that I made to both Spirit and Autumn Ranger. On August 4, I welcomed two bonded 9 year old declawed boys, Oliver and Sebastian. I chose to keep their given names since they were older boys and I didn’t want to confuse them. They ended up back in the shelter after their human had to enter a nursing home. Oliver is a very out going and friendly and is nicknamed by me, Mr. Pudge, as he weighs in at 17 1bs. We’re trying to work on loosing some weight but time will tell. H… -
Suzanne, what a thoughtful note you’ve sent. I am so glad you have your mother with you. Enjoy her company. My girl took medicine for her kidneys (you can have them compounded into a flavored liquid, which was a lot easier for us both. Pencol did ours and may be able to help you – https://pencolpharmacy.com/ ). Also, acupuncture helped her by stimulating blood flow to the kidneys. She didn’t mind it one bit.
Regarding the photos: we’re researching and believe the issue is with iPhones, and how Apple formats and saves the photos with one of the latest updates. Currently, it isn’t compatible with WordPress (and the wider internet) by default. It might take some time until there is widespread support for the new format. I know this isn’t ideal, but you can save photos as JPG files (the standard photo format) and the upload will work. Let us know if it doesn’t.
Oliver (Mr. Pudge) and Sebastian sound great and I hope you can get their photos up. 17 pounds is BIG and when I was taking care of Boots, he was 15 lbs. but wasn’t fat – just, “Pudgy” :-). Sebastian will come around. Poor things, they don’t know what happened to their person, and will become accustomed to you and their new environment. And hey, nothing wrong with butt scratches! You are very kind and generous to open your home and heart again. Spirit and Autumn Ranger are happy for you all. Thank you for the kind words of support you share. We know it means so much, and look forward to hearing more from you. Happy petting!! Toni
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago
Of course you will!! Pick up those feet and go get him, Carmelina. I was absolutely bereft when my Beauty Girl passed – the pain, the emptiness, the litter box and dishes and her beds gone…and then Boots came into my life and I understood how BG and Milo, and frankly each of us would only wish for more love to come around after we’re gone, too. Yep, one day you’ll part again but what a delight to have the time together. All kitties are going to die. All people are going to die. Even rocks erode over time. Don’t let the fear of loss overtake your joy of living, and sharing with a kitty who needs your loving and happy home. If I hadn’t experienced it myself, I wouldn’t be so bold, but I really hope you will open your doors – to your home, and your heart, and share again. That said, it has to be when you’re ready, but it sounds like you are. I love that you are so kind. Let us know what you decide. And send a special {HUG} to Suzanne who is mourning, too. Toni -
Carmelina posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago
Hi Toni and Suzanne. I apologize for not writing back sooner. Thank you for thinking of me and for your prayers. I still miss my Milo terribly but getting better. I think about adopting another all the time and visited with a couple of cats I was interested in on Saturday. One had a bit of a cold and of course, it frightened me. The thought of bringing a kitty home and having to medicate brings me back to those days I’d rather put out of my mind. The other kitty was very friendly and rubbed up against my leg. Did he pick me? When I’m spending time with cats, all the love I have pours out of me and I enjoy interacting and playing with them. In fact, the volunteer even commented that whoever I choose to adopt will be a very fortunate kitty. It’s when I’m by myself that all my fears take over about losing again and going through the pain again that I shy away from bringing another cat into my home. I’m constantly going back and forth… I want, I don’t want. I have considered adopting one of the kitties I saw last weekend. He’s beautiful! He’s a gray tuxedo with the most beautiful golden eyes. Will I go through with it? Stay tuned… : ) Thank you again for all the kind support and prayers. Sending prayers to you both, Toni and Suzanne. God bless you! -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago
Crying is exhausting but serves an important purpose – carrying toxins out of our system (similar to perspiration). You have so much piled on right now, and you are doing a great job moving forward. Let your pups help you the way you are helping so many others. And if you can find someone to give you a hand, that would be a help. We’re here for you. {{HUG}} -
Regina posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago
Toni – I know I should take care and time for myself. Right now, if I slow down memories hit me & I can’t stop crying- then I’m no good for anyone. I have PTSD & it’s in overdrive now but I let my dachshunds help me by sitting in my lap or giving me kisses. -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago
Gawd, she is just sooo cute, and has settled in nicely. Raina will always be with you, so don’t feel bad about ways in which they are alike – enjoy the newness and building another life, and love together. I am still so sorry about Raina….I miss my girl too, but am glad she is not failing anymore. I hope you take comfort in that for Raina, and truly pour yourself into this new fun! Keep sending pics and tales 🙂 -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago
Oh Regina, you have got to make a ew moments for yourself. I do know that is easier said than done, but we don’t want you to get sick – you can’t be a help to anyone then. Good to hear about your Mother. It’s nice you still have her. But it’s hard. And caring for pets is a big responsibility. Can you get someone to give you hand or a break? Please, keep us posted. Thinking about you. -
Toni Noel posted an update 4 years, 3 months ago
@ditavon77 Hello and welcome, Erika. Please tell us about Thor and let us know how you are doing. We love to see pictures and hear your stories.
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I lost my four legged daughter Ava a year ago this last April. She was a rescue and my shadow for eight years. Rescued her at three and passed at age 11. She was a sweet, loving sensitive soul. So missed and always loved and remembered.Hold onto all the wonderful memories you have of her for comfort. I had no children, so I understand about her being your child. Mine is that for me also.
I had a canvas 16″ X 20″ picture made of her and I pet it and talk to her every day. That helps. (That’s my girl in the photo): https://www.faithfulfriends.com/shop/pet-poster/
You may not be ready to open your home and heart to another for awhile, if ever, but in a surprise move of the universe, a young cat came into my life ten days after BG and I parted and I can tell you he turned me around, made me realize my girl was ready to go and let another little life come be loved. Please stay here with us. Melinda said goodbye to her Ava, Kristi lost Apache, Marilyn and Splinter parted…. so many of us are or have been going through this terrifically powerful time and we are here for you, and for one another. Sending you a heartfelt {{HUG}}. Toni