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Sandra posted an update 4 years ago
Not much has changed for me .Still missing my girl sasha may.On Nov 20th it will be two months that we lost our girl she was my very first dog ever so the hole in my heart ♥ is really big .I have some of her ashes on a necklace that I wear and haven\’t taken off . This is the last picture that I got of her it was taken on September 12th 2022 she passed away 8 days later. My heart is broken 💔. She was 15 -
Donna posted an update 4 years ago
Unfortunately not much is no the hole in my heart is bigger the 16th of this month will be a month that I lost my fur baby she was my best friend my soulmate my service cat I made her memorial I do everything I can to keep her still alive in me I miss her so bad I’m not eating I’m not sleeping they put me on sleeping pills to try to get me through this I miss her so so much and it’s not getting easier it seems like the longer she’s going the worst it is I have a hard time functioning she was the best little girl she was my life and I feel like I don’t have a life anymore without her
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Diana posted an update 4 years ago
ugly crying continues here and there. It’s been 15 days….I feel lost and wander my house sometimes like one of my other 6 cats…lost, looking for her…I’ve never had such a connection with a cat and she was so special. She was born into my hands! I had her mama and daddy upto a year ago…her brothers and sisters (adopted by family) also passed prior to her. She was the last to go of the family. I didn’t want to let her go. This is so hard….-
Diana, I am so so sorry. It hasn’t been very long, and you have lost so many in recent years. I understand a “special connection” – the pain of parting leaves a huge hole in your soul. I hope your other cats bring you comfort. They are mourning, too and need your comfort. The holidays make it hard, with memories of holidays past, and I hope you will let us know how you are doing. {{HUGS}. Toni -
Thank you Toni. I find it difficult to share my true grief – my husband will break out in sobs and it makes me uncomfortable and also feel like why is HE so upset? It was ME who raised her She was MINE! And if I want to cry he protests and says things like let’s not cry about that now. I WANT TO CRY. I feel my marriage is breaking apart because of our losses (x4) in less than a year has been more either of us has ever dealt with and we don’t know how to deal with each other either. It doesn’t help with the grief when your marriage isn’t going well either.
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Diana, this is a time of extreme loss and grief for you both. A neutral party, like a couples therapist, may be able to help you both communicate through this troubling time. Grief will find a way to express itself and I hope you allow yourself to get it out. Did you know the chemicals in tears of joy are different than in tears of grief? I think that says a lot about the need to physically express our pain – it helps cleanse some toxins when we cry. Let us know if you and your husband visit a therapist. I hope you find some effective ways to move forward together. {HUGS}
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Toni Noel posted an update 4 years ago
@barbc Hi Barb, and welcome to our caring community. Please tell us about Gigi and your lives together. How did you meet? How long were you together? We’d love to see photos, too. And Barb, how are you doing?
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Toni Noel posted an update 4 years ago
Reminder: 8 PM Eastern, 5 Pacific: Group Meeting on Zoom.
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Toni Noel posted an update 4 years ago
@becs888hotmail-comRebecca, is this Seth? What a darling. Please tell us about your lives together. And how are you holding up Rebecca?
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Seth was a rescue that Small Paws obtained from an Amish puppy mill in Pennsylvania. I adopted Seth, he was four months old. I had Seth for 18 years. We were together every single day. The aftermath of horrendous grief was life threatening for me, I was miserable. My husband was a huge support for me. After a couple of months, I found a group on Facebook, Rainbow Bridge Support Group, they pretty much saved my life and helped me immensely work through some of my grief. I miss beautiful Seth all day every day. It has been a year and a few months. I will probably mourn Seth for the rest of my life. -
Yes Rebecca, you will always miss Seth, but I promise you, with time, your memories will bring you smiles, of course with the profound sense and feeling of loss, but joy in the long, loving lives you shared. I promise. It takes time and you are wise to share with others who understand. You might find comfort in reaching out to others here who are also bereft and would appreciate your kindness and support for their grief. Would you share some images of Seth with us? You just click the photo icon on the lower left of this area and upload. Also, would you find comfort in creating a lasting Memorial with
our caring community? It’s only $10. through 2022, in honor of my own Beauty Girl from whom I sadly parted this February. It makes me feel good to do that, and it might you too.
I am so very sorry for your sadness, pain and grief, Rebecca. I am also glad you found our caring community, and invite you to join our monthly Group Meeting on Zoom Thursday Nov. 17th at 8 PM Eastern, 5 Pacific. (Link below)
Keep us posted and know we are here for you. With {{HUGS}} ToniFaithful Friends is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.
Time: Nov 17, 2022 06:00 PM Mountain Time (US and Canada)
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years ago
Glenda, damnit, yes, the pain is so deep, and the emptiness in and around the house is so, so much to bear, but bear it we will because the years of love and joy and life with them is way worth it, do you think? Yes, I know in our heads we know they are “only on loan to us” for too short a time, but by golly, the many heartfelt moments bring such warmth and joy, you wouldn’t have been without them, would you? We are gifted with special pet loves. They are, too. It’s a powerful component to living a full life of love, and sadly, loss, but when we are able and ready, will we open our hearts and homes again? I think so, I hope so. I hope you let yourself remember the wonderful lives you shared, and feel really good about doing that again, Glenda. We are here for, and with you. Talk to and with us, let us be with you as you move through this. I am so sorry and am sending you a {{HUG}}. Toni -
Glenda posted an update 4 years ago
Well, the last 2 months have been horrible. I lost Kissinger in September and then in October my precious Thomas (Flip Flop) passed crossed over the Rainbow Bridge. I am totally devasted. I loved all of my fur babies and the house just seems so empty although I still have Tubby. She stays in the bedroom most of the time, she has a food and water bowl as well and a litterbox in the bathroom. After having a house full of love bugs it just isn’t the same. I know I gave them a long life filled with lots of love, but it just wasn’t long enough for me, another 20 years would still have not been long enough. I have made arrangements for them to be looked after if something was to happen to me but now it is happening to my babies, and I am not prepared. I still have Salt outside and I love him, but I am not sure how many more goodbyes I can handle. Thanks so much for having a website where there are kind and compassionate people. We are truly broken hearted in Mayberry.
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Glenda, damnit, yes, the pain is so deep, and the emptiness in and around the house is so, so much to bear, but bear it we will because the years of love and joy and life with them is way worth it, do you think? Yes, I know in our heads we know they are “only on loan to us” for too short a time, but by golly, the many heartfelt moments bring such warmth and joy, you wouldn’t have been without them, would you? We are gifted with special pet loves. They are, too. It’s a powerful component to living a full life of love, and sadly, loss, but when we are able and ready, will we open our hearts and homes again? I think so, I hope so. I hope you let yourself remember the wonderful lives you shared, and feel really good about doing that again, Glenda. We are here for, and with you. Talk to and with us, let us be with you as you move through this. I am so sorry and am sending you a {{HUG}}. Toni
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years ago
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years ago
Elaine, a terrible thing happened and you are undoubtedly still traumatized. I can’t imagine you wouldn’t be. We don’t know what happened but we do know most animals kill quickly – it’s not a game for them like a cat playing with a mouse. It’s tough to have domestic pets when there are predators around. I lost a dearly beloved cat that way. It’s just horrific. I hope you find solace with Jesse – he needs you, too. The holidays stir deep emotions, too, so stay with us and feel safe sharing your feelings. We understand and care, and are here for you. Join our group meeting Nov. 17th at 8 PM Eastern – you’ll find kind, caring friends there. I am so, so sorry, Elaine. Toni -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years ago
Mary, describe where you are in your dark place. Crying, of course. Sleeping – ???? Appetite? Someone to talk to? Please share with us. -
Mary posted an update 4 years ago
Still in a dark place since my Kookie left
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Mary, describe where you are in your dark place. Crying, of course. Sleeping – ???? Appetite? Someone to talk to? Please share with us.
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Elaine posted an update 4 years ago
Riley has been gone almost 1year 9 mos. I still cry my heart is still broken for him he was my soulmate and I can’t stand the pain that coyote must have caused him. I have his little brother he is 3 years Riley’s junior and I love him to the moon and back but Jesse is not Riley. I’m sobbing as I’m writing this. I pray every night for the lord to keep my baby by his side. He was only 3.
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Elaine, a terrible thing happened and you are undoubtedly still traumatized. I can’t imagine you wouldn’t be. We don’t know what happened but we do know most animals kill quickly – it’s not a game for them like a cat playing with a mouse. It’s tough to have domestic pets when there are predators around. I lost a dearly beloved cat that way. It’s just horrific. I hope you find solace with Jesse – he needs you, too. The holidays stir deep emotions, too, so stay with us and feel safe sharing your feelings. We understand and care, and are here for you. Join our group meeting Nov. 17th at 8 PM Eastern – you’ll find kind, caring friends there. I am so, so sorry, Elaine. Toni
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years ago
I’m so sorry, Sally. Seventeen years is a long life and in our heads we know that, but in our hearts there is never enough time together. It hurts. I hope you find joy in your memories. Please share your story of life together and let us know how you are doing. Toni -
Sally posted an update 4 years ago
My old farm dog Jasmine passed away peacefully in her sleep, she was17 an a rescue dog. Missing her very much.
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I’m so sorry, Sally. Seventeen years is a long life and in our heads we know that, but in our hearts there is never enough time together. It hurts. I hope you find joy in your memories. Please share your story of life together and let us know how you are doing. Toni
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How are you doing now, Sally?
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years ago
It’s next to impossible not to feel guilty for for acts small and large that we think we could have done, but in reality, we always act in the best interest of our pets. In retrospect, maybe something could have been different, but you never did anything that wasn’t best for Mindy at the time, based on the information you had. Is that right, Liz? And the most important thing you ever did, or could do, was share your home and heart, and care for and about each other. There is no flawless relationship in life. Please make a list of the things you feel guilty about and one by one, recall the circumstances and I bet you will find that you made the best choices.
I am greedy – I want my pets with me forever, but they are only on loan to us and I have to cherish the endless fun and love, grieve the emptiness of parting, and then honor our lives together by finding smiles before tears with her memory. I know you will one day, but this is just a devastating time and it hurts at a cellular level. It’s not easy and we understand. We’re right here for and with you so feel safe sharing with us. I hope this {{HUG}} helps. Toni -
Liz Michelle posted an update 4 years ago
We fund each other almost 14 years ago, we were so sad and she brought happiness again….we were a family, every where together no matter what, Now sadness without words since her departure …. To express how we feel since she left? the horrible silence she left and tender loving memories all around, I’m just devastated beyond my words and beyond my heart …..I miss her so much, we miss her so much, all I think is the things I could have done And I didn’t do and now she’s gone forever, something my heart and mind can’t bear 😭💔
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It’s next to impossible not to feel guilty for for acts small and large that we think we could have done, but in reality, we always act in the best interest of our pets. In retrospect, maybe something could have been different, but you never did anything that wasn’t best for Mindy at the time, based on the information you had. Is that right, Liz? And the most important thing you ever did, or could do, was share your home and heart, and care for and about each other. There is no flawless relationship in life. Please make a list of the things you feel guilty about and one by one, recall the circumstances and I bet you will find that you made the best choices.
I am greedy – I want my pets with me forever, but they are only on loan to us and I have to cherish the endless fun and love, grieve the emptiness of parting, and then honor our lives together by finding smiles before tears with her memory. I know you will one day, but this is just a devastating time and it hurts at a cellular level. It’s not easy and we understand. We’re right here for and with you so feel safe sharing with us. I hope this {{HUG}} helps. Toni
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Toni Noel posted an update 4 years ago
It takes a moment ….. to fall in love for a lifetime.
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years ago
April, How are you doing now? Toni -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years ago
Martha, How are you doing now? Toni - Load More
Faithful Friends is inviting you to a scheduled Zoom meeting.
TFaithful Friends November Group Meeting
Time: Nov 17, 2022 06:00 PM Mountain Time (US and Canada)
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