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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Good luck with the job hunting. Any special field in which you are looking? Maybe someone here has ideas. June was a real darling and I can really relate to how deep your relationship was after so many years. I had my Squirt for 19 years. We met when I was 23 and she died when I was 42. We went through many life events together and she was my best friend. It is terribly hard to say goodbye but boy, what a joy to share so many years together. I found a stuffed toy helped me get through the night after each of my losses. Perhaps you can find something like that. And yes, please do join our group if you can. It’s very kind, understanding and helpful. I am sending you a {BIG HUG}. Toni -
Christina posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Hi Toni thank you for your kind words. Sorry for your loss. I will try and get into the group on July 20th . Looking for work at the moment too. -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Twenty – how special for you both to share a life of love.And how very difficult it is having empty places in your home, and your heart. I am so very sorry, Christina. I find it odd and sad to walk into my house and not have my little darling come running to greet (or yell at) me. I really do use my “ruler” exercise as a way of rethinking: Each inch = 1 year. You and June had 20 “inches” of joy and love, fun and funny times, and just a short bit at the end that was not so good. Now you are adjusting as best you can to a totally new way of living in a completely changed home. It’s hard. I am so glad to have you share with us and hope you’ll join our group meeting July 20th. Links are under “Events”. Until then, please keep us posted and know we are here for you. {{Toni}} -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Lisa, how sad Baby was so young. Any age is too young, but at least with older pets (and people) we know they had a long run. I hope you are speaking with your professionals about this – they may be able to help you in ways we cannot. What we CAN do is let you know you are among friends who sympathize and support you. Toni -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Maureen, you are always welcome here. Your kind, caring support of others means so much, and I hope you find some level of comfort knowing our community is here for you. {{💔}}.Toni -
Christina posted an update 3 years, 3 months ago
I saw June come into the world, then I saw her leave the world. She was 20. Everywhere I look I am hoping she will be there. There is a spot on the couch I made a tent for her to sleep in. The hardest part was taking it down. I have re-purposed her scratching post into a plant stand too. I so miss her.-
Twenty – how special for you both to share a life of love.And how very difficult it is having empty places in your home, and your heart. I am so very sorry, Christina. I find it odd and sad to walk into my house and not have my little darling come running to greet (or yell at) me. I really do use my “ruler” exercise as a way of rethinking: Each inch = 1 year. You and June had 20 “inches” of joy and love, fun and funny times, and just a short bit at the end that was not so good. Now you are adjusting as best you can to a totally new way of living in a completely changed home. It’s hard. I am so glad to have you share with us and hope you’ll join our group meeting July 20th. Links are under “Events”. Until then, please keep us posted and know we are here for you. {{Toni}}
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Hi Toni thank you for your kind words. Sorry for your loss. I will try and get into the group on July 20th . Looking for work at the moment too.
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Good luck with the job hunting. Any special field in which you are looking? Maybe someone here has ideas. June was a real darling and I can really relate to how deep your relationship was after so many years. I had my Squirt for 19 years. We met when I was 23 and she died when I was 42. We went through many life events together and she was my best friend. It is terribly hard to say goodbye but boy, what a joy to share so many years together. I found a stuffed toy helped me get through the night after each of my losses. Perhaps you can find something like that. And yes, please do join our group if you can. It’s very kind, understanding and helpful. I am sending you a {BIG HUG}. Toni
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Christina posted an update 3 years, 3 months ago
My sweet baby girl June I lost on June 9th. Missing her every day. -
Maureen posted an update 3 years, 3 months ago
Hello all,
This is a hard day for me…..it\’s been 6 months ago today that I lost my boy, Romeo. I just can\’t believe that he\’s been gone this long. I don’t even remember living through these last months because it\’s been a blur. I know I have, but, I just go through the motions every day because I have no choice. Each day is the same, over and over with no purpose anymore. I am still so lost without him and I just wish I wouldn\’t wake up anymore because I know I won\’t see him. This is not living! Romeo was my entire reason for living. He was the reason I got out of bed every day and now he is gone. I can\’t accept it.
I don\’t want to hear people tell me what I should do or what I need to do or that I ought to be over this by now because IM NOT! I wont ever get over it no matter what, no matter how long I live. I don’t want to hear that Romeo would be sad to know how hard I am grieving or that his soul will never rest in peace until I let him go. I cant let him go, I will never let him go. There is no letting go. My life is crap and empty and I don\’t have any desire to do anything or go anywhere or see anyone. It\’s over and I just want to be left alone because that\’s the way I want it.I\’ve been very grateful to have this platform to come to and I thank all who have been there for me, especially Toni. I appreciate all the kind words you have said to me. I\’m just lost.
I love you my Romeo and a life without you is no life at all . I will miss you till the day I die. I am broken never to be whole again. 💔 💔
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Maureen, you are always welcome here. Your kind, caring support of others means so much, and I hope you find some level of comfort knowing our community is here for you. {{💔}}.Toni
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Maureen, you can get thru this too. My ears are open and my heart is here for you. I know it’s tough on you. Blessings to you. I hope you find your peace soon. Brony
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Don’t be lost…I will do everything in my power to give you purpose. . You seem like a wonderful person and Romeo knew that, he felt it. Chin up okay?
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Brony, thank you so much for your kindness. I can’t believe the way I am feeling, even after 6 months of losing Romeo. I have been trying to keep my chin up and sometimes I seem to be on my way to getting better, but, then I crash. I am just having a hard time is all. I appreciate your willingness to help me find purpose. I just don’t have one, but, maybe, my purpose is me now to just go on each day and live. I guess I just have to accept that now I must find a way to do that alone.
Thank you so much, Brony, you are very sweet to care. ❤️
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Toni, I know I’m welcome here, but, thank you for saying that. I try my best to be there for others whenever I can. I am a caretaker by nature and feel happiest when I have someone to take care of. Romeo was that for me these last 14.5 years and even though I knew he was aging, I didn’t expect him to die the way he did. There wasn’t time to react and he was gone before I realized what was happening. That’s not the way it was supposed to be. So, I think that is why I am still having a hard time. I am working on trying to get to a better place.
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You aren’t alone. I lots my cat Sweetness 8 months ago, and I know it’s hard to lose a pet. I’m never going to get over Sweetness. It takes time .. there’s good days and bad days.. and it’s never easy. But things will eventually get better for you. Romeo will always be in heart .
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Maureen, it’s good that you are identifying some of the specific reasons your grief is so unrelenting. Not being able to say goodbye is a terrible thing. It denies us the chance to bid farewell and say again how much we love them. Romeo was well loved by you all his life and he knew that, do you think? We all wish for a slow, gentle passing (for our pets and ouselves) but it doesn’t always happen that way and we struggle to adjust to the sudden change in everything about our lives without our beloved. I think you are coming up from the depths and hope you allow yourself to include good memories of the long, loving life you shared. We’ll crawl along beside you. {HUGS} Toni
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Karen, I am so sorry for your loss of Sweetness 😞 You’re right, it is so hard to lose our pet. The unconditional love they give us is like no other. This grief is unbearable and I am not having an easy time of it at the moment.
Thank you for your kindness. I’m sending you hugs to comfort you atbthis very sad time. Peace be with you. 💔 -
Toni, thank you so much for your kindness once again. You are so very kind and thoughtful. It is hard to accept the way Romeo passed. I feel denied of the opportunity to say goodbye. It is something I will never get over. I will continue to try and come to terms with that. In the meantime, I will “crawl” along and I thank you for you all for being there with me. ❤️
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Lisa posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Baby was a rescue ,I got her when she was 1 ,she was scared of everything
She would never eat so I started hand feeding her ,it was the only way she’d eat ,but I didn’t mind ,and it stuck for the 4 years I had the privilege of having her by my side
She was such a sweet girl ,a true mamas girl ,she slept w me every night ,and was always by my side ,till the day she passed
She just turned 5 right before her passing 😭
I cant deal with her passing ,I am beyond heartbroken ,she was my whole world ,my entire life
She was also my ESA ,as I suffer from numerous health issues as well as PTSD Bipolar with manic and suicidal tendencies
I’m not ok and I won’t be ok for a long long time
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Brony posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Toni, first 4th without babies, I always had something to greet me when I came home. I miss that, don’t you? Blessings to you. You made an animal feel important. Here’s to making you feel important. With hopes you will love again. -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Baby was so teeny and adorable, Lisa. I have tears with you, looking at her picture. How old was she? How long were you together? How did you meet? I really want to get to know her, and about your lives together if you’ll share that with us. Do you have people or pets around you to help you through this? I found a stuffed animal I could hold helped me. We are here for and with you, Lisa. We get it and I hope you join our group meeting July 20th to share more. (Links to the meetings are under “Events” on the right side of this page). Sending you a {BIG HUG}. Toni -
Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 3 months ago
@mickiesmom Hi Karla. I am so sorry for your parting from Micki. Are you okay? Not so good? We’re her for you. Tell us about Micki – what kind of pet, how you met, how long you were together .. anythng you’d like to share. We love to see photos, too, if you like.
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Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 3 months ago
For many of us this 4th of July was the first without our beloved companions. We didn’t have to worry about the fireworks noise, and soothing them. On the good side – they didn’t have to be scared by it all. I just got home from a quick trip (the first in a loooong time since I wouldn’t leave my babies at home without me), and it’s weird coming in knowing no one is here to greet me. 🙁 I still find toys and little by little am putting, or giving, them away. I’m not crying, I am just missing them. In some ways it’s easier not having a pet to care for, and I know one day I will open my home and heart to another, probably several. Until then, I am finding joy with my memories, alongside the bits of sorrow that linger. Overall, I am just so darn happy to have had them in my life and that they had a loving home with me. I am touched by every post here, and I read every one. The support, encouragement and kindness in our Community is overwhelming and I am sincerely grateful we are all here. With {{BIG HUGS}} to ALL. Toni
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Toni, first 4th without babies, I always had something to greet me when I came home. I miss that, don’t you? Blessings to you. You made an animal feel important. Here’s to making you feel important. With hopes you will love again.
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Sigrid posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Lisa, she’s a bundle of cuteness. I feel for you and I hope you have friends around you to understand your pain. And this community here certainly does. The cold hard facts cannot be changed but each and everyone here has gone through this. And they are good at listening and comforting and making you feel less alone with this. Let us hear about her and let us help you mourn. Sending good wishes! Sigrid -
Sigrid posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Such sweet and soulful eyes. It takes time and many tears before you will be able to feel her in your heart and be at peace with that. At least that’s my experience. It’s not like the joy of having them around but it is a comforting feeling too: they are safe and sound, and the worst has already happened. I can still feel their sweet energy and I can talk to them in my mind. They are still part of my life and I am grateful for that. Best wishes to you! Sigrid -
Brony posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Hi Maureen, I never had to sedate Lulu, but it is the first
4th of July without her. I sure do miss her quirky little ways. So how are you doing? I hope things are a little brighter on this July 5th. I’m thinking of you. Take care brony -
Lisa posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
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Maureen posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Awww….Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss 💔 What a beautiful girl she was. I know your heart is broken and you are devastated. I wish there was something I could say to ease your pain. Sending you hugs 💔 -
Maureen posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
So sorry for your loss of Kayla 😞 💔 -
Maureen posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago
Romeo was terrified of fireworks and I had to sedate him. This is the first 4th of July without him. He doesn’t have to be afraid anymore. 😞 💔 - Load More
