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    Martha posted an update 3 years, 1 month ago

    A year ago today I lost my sweet girl. It has been a difficult year. I got a new puppy Mae. She sometimes does things that Raina would do. Today is really difficult though.
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      Toni Noel replied 3 years, 1 month ago
      Martha, yep. The anniversaries and holidays are specific dates that bring on big memories. Especially the first year of our saying goodbye. With your sadness, can you find some joy? You don’t have to, but I hope you can include some of the wonderful parts of your time with Raina. She rreally was such a sweetie and joy. I hope you can allow yourself to treasure that, too. Here’s a really big {HUG} for you.
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        Maureen replied 3 years, 1 month ago
        Martha, I am so sorry for your loss of Raina. 😞 I know how difficult it was to go through that first year without her and today had to be hard. I and others here are going through it now and it is hard. I wish you and your new pup Mae a wonderfully long and happy life together. Hugs 🫂
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          Martha replied 3 years, 1 month ago
          Thank you, I cried as wrote the post. Also cried last night. There are times Mae triggers memories, because she will do something that Raina would do, it’s getting better but sometimes it still makes me cry. Mae will try to comfort me having no idea that something she did was the trigger for a memory.
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            Brony replied 3 years, 1 month ago
            Maureen, how are you today? My thoughts are with you. Besides we have a pack together….chin up.
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              Maureen replied 3 years, 1 month ago
              Brony, hello! So far today, I’m okay. Yesterday, I had difficult times throughout the day. Thank you for thinking about me and I hope you are doing okay too. Yes, we have a pact and I am trying and I know you are too. I am having a very difficult time, but, I know time is what I need. Sending hugs 🫂
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                Toni Noel replied 3 years, 1 month ago
                Maureen and Brony: I think it is Brilliant that you have ‘partnered’ to support each other as we journey forth. I hope others here in our Community find a partner, or feel that we are ALL partnered. Brilliant!
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                  Brony replied 3 years, 1 month ago
                  And I’m sending hugs right back. I’m glad today is over, it’s been a rough one for me too. When I sat at the table and looked out the window by the bush was a black and white cat. Well I thought there was a cat it was just lights playing tricks on my brain. When my friend came over she told me thàts where Lulu was buried. I never knew where she was, I didn’t want to know. Lulu was telling me it’s okay a black and white cat needs a home..I’m ok with it. I want you to be happy..I love you Lulu and I’ll never replace you. Ever……Maureen there is a higher power out there. Brony
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                    Maureen replied 3 years, 1 month ago
                    Hi Brony, I haven’t been on much and just now seeing your post. I hope you are doing better today. Maybe you did see your Lulu that day and maybe that was a sign from her. I don’t believe in coincidences. Everything happens for a reason. If you feel that Lulu would want you to give another kitty a safe and loving home, then you should take all the love in your heart and honor her by doing that. I am not ever going to do that, but, I support everyone who does. Today, so far, I only cried once. I know I will have some more episodes today, but, I know I am now in the “waves of grief” part of grief. It will be 6 months next week and I can’t believe it.
                    Hugs to you, Brony 🫂
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                      Brony replied 3 years, 1 month ago
                      Oh Maureen it makes my heart hurt. I wish you lived nextdoor so I could run and give you a hug. I don’t believe in coincidences either. Everything happens for a reason. There is a reason you met me. I’m not sure what that is but I was blessed in meeting you. Keep your chin up and know I’m always thinking of you. May you get plenty of hugs. Pretend they are from me.. Brony (I see a kitty outside, in the morning it’s there and goes to bed at dark. Watching over me. That’s the only explanation I could find)