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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Oh no, Joanne. I am so very sorry. What happened? -
Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@deneshad21 Denesha, I am so sorry for your loss of Ellie. Please let us know how you are doing, and tell us about your life with Ellie. Toni
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me and my fiancé are having a hard time adjusting. she was 4 years old. But we had lots of adventures together. We started our life in Florida then we moved to upstate New York. We spent a lot of time at dog parks. Our Shetland sheepdog is having a hard time with her absence. -
Oh Denesha, so many changes for all of you. Yes, your Shetland is mourning Ellie, too. You all need to give one another more love and kindness now. Put up with moods and actions that may be out of the ordinary. And please, share your feelings together, including with your Shetland – they are sensitive to our feelings. What’s your Shetland’s name? Boy or girl? May we see pictures of both Ellie and your Shetland?
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His name is Archie. He does a few things she used to. He takes some food from his bowl and walks away to eat then goes back for more.
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Joanne posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
We lost our Ms Molly Sunday at 6:30pm she was only 1 year 2months old.-
Oh no, Joanne. I am so very sorry. What happened?
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Well when she was 12 weeks old a so called friend took her to be a part of her family after a 1 and 2 months she brought the dog back saying she was an inconvenience and didn’t want her. She ended up getting really sick on Friday so we took her to the emergency Vet and they said she had Parvovirus they found from the other vet that she was never vaccinated and they tried to save her but it was just to much for her. I have filed a lawsuit against the so called friend but it doesn’t change the fact that Ms Molly suffered and we miss her so much.
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What a sad thing, Joanne. I am so, so sorry. Please accept my sincere sympathy. Toni
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The plus side is we still have her brother so she will live on in our hearts.
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Joanne, I really hope you can join us this Thursady (7/20) for our group meeting. You will find insights and support there. It seems you did what could be done for dear Ms. Molly. Please, be kind to yourself. {HUGS} Toni
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Maureen posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
I dont know who I am posting this to, but, I hope it gets to both Sigrid and Toni.Sigrid, thank you so much for reaching out to me. I am trying my best to work through all of this horrible pain. Romeo was the best boy and I am so lost without him. 💔
Your advice to me was very helpful and maybe you are right about Romeo sending me a gift. Although, I can’t grasp the idea totally because I dont understand why he would want me to be in such pain. But, I do know he wouldn’t want me to be. I thank you for helping me to see things in a different way. I am so raw right now and want all this heartache to stop. 💔Toni Noel, thank you for your kind words to me. I don’t feel like I deserve to be kind to myself because at his last moments, I was in a complete panic. I didnt know Romeo was dying, I thought he was just not feeling well. when I picked him up he cried out and his eyes looked dizzy and he couldnt hold up his little head so I laid him on my bed to comfort him. I was stroking him and talking to him and telling him it’s gonna be okay , but,I think he was already gone. I didn’t know he was dying and I blame myself for not realizing that and try to save him by doing something. I should have done something. I never got the chance to tell him all the things I needed to tell him. It’s all such a nightmare.
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Maureen, it hasn’t been very long since you so suddenly lost Romeo and it’s understandable that you are grieving still. The pain of parting is deep and unlike any other. I like what Sigrid shared – perhaps there is a gift from Romeo that will allow you to heal even beyond his loss. Thursday you will receive an email with the access to our group support session and I hope we see you there. It may help to talk about Romeo with our caring and understanding friends. Please be kind to yourself Maureen. You were kind and loving for Romeo and deserve the same. {{HUGS}} Toni -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Faye, first I want to thank your son, and your family, for serving. I am sorry your son was injured and wish you all well. I hope things go well for you. I am also very sorry Toby had to say goodbye. It’s so hard to lose a dear, close, beloved friend. Not that anyone could ‘replace’ Toby but if your son needs a service dog will you find another? If so, please share that with us. We support Canine Companions for Independence – https://canine.org/. I don’t know if their special breeds are suitable for your son but they may be able to help you. I am sending you my sympathy and hope to hear more from you. Toni -
Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@jami Hi Jami. Is your pets’ name Nobermin? What kind of pet was Nobermin? We’d love to hear about your lives together. Are you doing okay?
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Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@ann040961 Hello Ann. Please tell us about your pet/s.
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Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
@roydawn Hi Dawn. I am sorry for your loss of Sparky. Please tell us about Sparky and share some photos. How are you doing? Okay, I hope.
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Sigrid posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Maureen, Romeo looks adorable. Great name for him. I am so sorry you lost him. And yes, the trauma of losing him can dredge up old pain and unlived grief. You can dedicate your recovery to him by dealing with what needs to be dealt with. Bring it up, give it space and acknowledge it, hopefully with the help of a good friend or a therapist. I hope I am not overstepping here but I am talking out of my own experience. I know it sounds weird but you can consider it Romeo’s gift to you, getting rid of old aches and pains so you can love again. You are courageous to talk about your pain, that’s the first step, not suppressing your grief. as you did in the past. Your love for Romeo did that! Thank him and honor him by continuing on that path. -
Maureen posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
Hi, I haven\’t commented here since my first one and I was very thankful for your response. Unfortunately, I am still in a bad place over losing my Romeo. I wake up and cry every day. I relive that morning over and over again. I am so depressed and nothing is helping me to climb out of this dark place I\’m in. I hate feeling this way and I\’m trying to get better, but, this trauma has only been bringing out many things from my past that have happened which I have been suppressing for many, many year I still isolate and I don\’t think of the future at all. I just get up and go through the motions of each day and that\’s it. I just wish I could go back in time and hold my boy and kiss him and cuddle him once more, but,I know that\’s not possible.
I\’m tired of this pain and I wish this was all a dream.
Thank you for letting me speak about my heartache. 💔
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Maureen, Romeo looks adorable. Great name for him. I am so sorry you lost him. And yes, the trauma of losing him can dredge up old pain and unlived grief. You can dedicate your recovery to him by dealing with what needs to be dealt with. Bring it up, give it space and acknowledge it, hopefully with the help of a good friend or a therapist. I hope I am not overstepping here but I am talking out of my own experience. I know it sounds weird but you can consider it Romeo’s gift to you, getting rid of old aches and pains so you can love again. You are courageous to talk about your pain, that’s the first step, not suppressing your grief. as you did in the past. Your love for Romeo did that! Thank him and honor him by continuing on that path.
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Maureen, it hasn’t been very long since you so suddenly lost Romeo and it’s understandable that you are grieving still. The pain of parting is deep and unlike any other. I like what Sigrid shared – perhaps there is a gift from Romeo that will allow you to heal even beyond his loss. Thursday you will receive an email with the access to our group support session and I hope we see you there. It may help to talk about Romeo with our caring and understanding friends. Please be kind to yourself Maureen. You were kind and loving for Romeo and deserve the same. {{HUGS}} Toni
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I dont know who I am posting this to, but, I hope it gets to both Sigrid and Toni.
Sigrid, thank you so much for reaching out to me. I am trying my best to work through all of this horrible pain. Romeo was the best boy and I am so lost without him. 💔
Your advice to me was very helpful and maybe you are right about Romeo sending me a gift. Although, I can’t grasp the idea totally because I dont understand why he would want me to be in such pain. But, I do know he wouldn’t want me to be. I thank you for helping me to see things in a different way. I am so raw right now and want all this heartache to stop. 💔Toni Noel, thank you for your kind words to me. I don’t feel like I deserve to be kind to myself because at his last moments, I was in a complete panic. I didnt know Romeo was dying, I thought he was just not feeling well. when I picked him up he cried out and his eyes looked dizzy and he couldnt hold up his little head so I laid him on my bed to comfort him. I was stroking him and talking to him and telling him it’s gonna be okay , but,I think he was already gone. I didn’t know he was dying and I blame myself for not realizing that and try to save him by doing something. I should have done something. I never got the chance to tell him all the things I needed to tell him. It’s all such a nightmare.
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Maureen, we are seeing your messages fine. Our community is based on kindness, sympathy and understanding and any comments are made from a point of sincere concern and the hope we bring some comfort. You experienced a traumatic shock and it is understandable that you are not only grieving, but questioning what happened. Intellectually, we know we don’t have a lot of control over the end of life. We can provide a relief with euthanasia when we know of health issues, but often our pets just come to the end of their given lifetime. Same with humans. From what I’m reading, you did any and everything that could be done for Romeo. He was with you at the end, in the warmth of your love. If you can join our group tonight it may help you to talk with us. If not, please stay engaged with us here. We’re thinking of you. {{HUGS}}. Toni
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Maureen, I am glad you were able to see things from a different perspective. I am not religious but I know for sure that talking to Romeo will be good for you and maybe he’ll hear you. Nobody can prove the opposite so you might as well hold on to this comforting thought. And you are right, he would not want you to suffer. As Toni said be kind to yourself and put your love and grief in words and send them to Romeo. Friends hear you, this community hears you, and Romeo may hear you. You love him and he had a good life with you. Not that this is the time to think about that but you’re a good mom and there may be other dogs out there that need you once you are ready. You’ll never be able (nor would you want) to replace him but there is need out there for care and love that you can give just like you did for Romeo.
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Thank you so much for your kindness.
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Nancy posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
He was 15 I had him since he was 6 months I adopted him at the spca in camden de -
Faye posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
Toby was a Jack Russel. I miss him very much. He was my son\’s service dog. My son was hurt in Iraq. He always was so happy to see me as i was him.-
Faye, first I want to thank your son, and your family, for serving. I am sorry your son was injured and wish you all well. I hope things go well for you. I am also very sorry Toby had to say goodbye. It’s so hard to lose a dear, close, beloved friend. Not that anyone could ‘replace’ Toby but if your son needs a service dog will you find another? If so, please share that with us. We support Canine Companions for Independence – https://canine.org/. I don’t know if their special breeds are suitable for your son but they may be able to help you. I am sending you my sympathy and hope to hear more from you. Toni
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Kyle posted an update 3 years, 6 months ago
It’s been so difficult without Presley 💔miss her so much…
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Katherine posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
Maryann: I feel your pain. The grife had no time limit ,just tak it one day at a time. My litte Shadow has bee gone for 1 year this month he was only 3 years 0ld 7 months after my loving husband passed. So my grief was doubled. But think of all the loving memories help some but still miss them both very much. Sorry you having such tough time. Maybe you could have someone send you photos of some adoption kitty’s, 0r dogs,than if you see one Maybe asked if they could bering the kitty to you or dog n just sn idea. Prays going out to you. -
Maryann posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago
That’s a lovely idea but I am housebound and get around with a walker and wheelchair so that isn’t possible for me to do. Penny was the light in my life behind all the darkness that I experienced since May 2020. She has been gone 6 weeks and I miss her so much. -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 3 years, 7 months ago
Diana, this is a time of extreme loss and grief for you both. A neutral party, like a couples therapist, may be able to help you both communicate through this troubling time. Grief will find a way to express itself and I hope you allow yourself to get it out. Did you know the chemicals in tears of joy are different than in tears of grief? I think that says a lot about the need to physically express our pain – it helps cleanse some toxins when we cry. Let us know if you and your husband visit a therapist. I hope you find some effective ways to move forward together. {HUGS} -
Diana posted a new activity comment 3 years, 7 months ago
Buddy is the one remaining cat of the original pack and he is now on thyroid meds / just in the last two months. He is sad. He used to have 4 siblings he could sit on the deck with or sit at the pool with Pixar his older bro he antagonized for years but now all the newer cats and kittens will not be going outside. Two are Egyptian Mau breeds and I fear I will never see them again if they get their freedom to run (up to 40km p/hr apparently!). The kittens are just too young of course and frankly I don’t agree cats should be let to roam – getting out with supervision is much different but I have trained my Egyptians to stay in now after 6 years but my husband loves his outdoor time with Buddy and I know he misses Pixar at the pool or Skank catching rays on the deck with her hubby Daddy (bozo’s parents) and wants to see Buddy happy too – so it’s a bit of an argument between us about the kittens and how we train them….ugh! -
Diana posted a new activity comment 3 years, 7 months ago
Thank you Toni. I find it difficult to share my true grief – my husband will break out in sobs and it makes me uncomfortable and also feel like why is HE so upset? It was ME who raised her She was MINE! And if I want to cry he protests and says things like let’s not cry about that now. I WANT TO CRY. I feel my marriage is breaking apart because of our losses (x4) in less than a year has been more either of us has ever dealt with and we don’t know how to deal with each other either. It doesn’t help with the grief when your marriage isn’t going well either. -
Toni Noel posted an update 3 years, 7 months ago
Sincere, heartfelt gratitude to those who contribute to our caring Community with both your stories, and monetary contributions. It means so much to have the support of one another, knowing we are here to care for, and about, you and your beloved pets. We are truly grateful. ❤️Toni
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