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    Dianne Kurtz posted an update 4 years, 11 months ago

    I am having to make “that” decision no pet parent wants to do.I have to have my 13 year old mama cat put to sleep next week.Before anyone asks why, I live on a fixed,monthly income and after paying my rent and other utilities,I do not have have extra money left.I am doing the best that I can.
    My mama cat does not want to eat and is becoming very thin.Yes,I feed her twice a day.
    Her quality of life is declining.
    I have had her since she was 7 weeks old,and could fit into the palm of my hand.No negativity,please.I am beyond super stressed and sick feeling.

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      Reagan replied 4 years, 11 months ago
      Just read this. I am so sorry Dianne. Making that decision is the hardest thing. There is zero shame in not wanting your animal to suffer — ok? 13 years is a beautiful life and you will know when she’s had enough. Be proud of yourself for loving her this much. She knows you do.
      I’m so glad this site exists if only for people like you.
      I’m sending so much love to you and your girl. 💛
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        Terrilynn replied 4 years, 11 months ago
        hugs Dianne – been there a few times … you are doing what is best for your fur baby …. hugs!
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          Toni Noel replied 4 years, 11 months ago
          Reagan says it beautifully. The decision to do what’s best for her is the ultimate act of kindness and generosity, even while it breaks your own heart. It sounds as if she is choosing not to eat – a sign that her system is shutting down, just as in humans. If that was not the case, I’d send you to our friends at http://www.waggle.org to seek financial support. They help pay vet bills when needed. But it seems like your baby is ready to go. What a loving, long life you shared – we can’t ask for, or offer more. You are loving and caring, Dianne. We’re here for you to let us know how you are. HUGS, HUGS, HUGS
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              Dianne Kurtz replied 4 years, 11 months ago
              She actually looks anorexic.Her food dish is full.I have had her since she was a 7 week ball of fluff.She isn’t wanting to eat.I have tried my best to adjust her foods.Still no interest.So yes,I have to do what’s best.I just worry that she won’t hate me for what I am going to do.
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                  Toni Noel replied 4 years, 11 months ago
                  Dianne, I wouldn’t mention this but think it may help you: My mother had ALS and desperately wanted relief from it. Human euthanasia was not legal so my sister and I couldn’t help ease her way and grant her a peaceful exit, for which she would have been grateful. So no, if anything, your selflessness is a gift to your girl, for which she will be grateful, and will always love you.
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                Denise replied 4 years, 11 months ago
                I am so sorry Diane. But you You will know when it is time to let her go. She has had a long wonderful life and knows that she has been loved. Cherish the many memories you have.
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                  Toni Noel replied 4 years, 11 months ago
                  Dianne, How are you? How is your girl? Are you taking her this week, or will you say goodbye at home? We’re here, Dianne. Please know in your heart this is for HER, not you – a generous kindness and an act of love. HUGS HUGS HUGS
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                      Dianne Kurtz replied 4 years, 11 months ago
                      I am heartbroken for the decision I have to make,and I wonder if she knows because she keeps putting her face into mine,something she’s never done before.Her appointment is on the 7th of September.I have to do this.This is heartbreaking.Thank you for asking Toni.
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                          Toni Noel replied 4 years, 11 months ago
                          Years ago, my 19 year old was failing and I took her to a hospital on a Friday night (this was before in-home euthanasia was available) and told them it was time. They said she just needed antibiotics. Well, I still resent that poor little Squirt had to live that last week – she was miserable, suffering, and it wasn’t in her best interest to keep going. Exactly one week later she was bleeding from every orifice, her heart was jumping out of her chest, and I took her to her own vet and gave her relief from her suffering. She probably knew, and I am certain she was grateful. We are the ones left behind to grieve the loss but I truly believe they think we’re being silly and want us to be happy for the lives we shared. Which we will be once we move through the pain and indeed, heartbreak of parting. She’s probably letting you know it’s okay and trying to comfort, and thank you. We’ll be here.