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We lost our Max Sunday 11/29/2021 @ 1:11am. He was such a loving little soul. We had rescued him from an abuse situation. He had also been run over by a vehicle and so he had arthritis early on in his back legs.
When we brought him home he had no idea what a bed was, how to play with a toy, that food and water were always available to him. We had to teach him so much, but he also taught us so much. Like how to love again, how to enjoy the simple pleasure of just sitting together with no expectations. We had lost that since our son died and my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. We valued every single minute with Max. He gave unconditionally right up until the end. We knew his time was short as he also had cancer but we weren\’t prepared. We miss him desperately , our hearts are shattered and our home is empty now. How do you handle this pain and heartache? It\’s all consuming and seems as if it won\’t end.-
Lori, you ask how you ‘handle’ the pain. You ARE handling the pain, but not really …IT handles you in that the pain is not a feeling, but a state of being. I think it’s a cellular part of us, just as Max was such a deep part of you. But, the love is also a part of you, as are the memories of how you gave comfort to poor little scared Max, and he gave you such important lessons. What a powerful give and take you shared together. How fortunate was Max, and all of you for sharing the time you did. Every living thing will die – leaves that decorate and feed trees are like our beloved pets – they feed us love, happiness and make us better, but they have to “jump off” at some point, leaving behind the tree of support and strength we shared with them. As a friend says “they are only on loan to us”. It is more than painful to part, in a way that is not comparable, but Lori, what a wonderful gift you and Max shared, don’t you think? I think you and your family are magnificent – you have loved and lost so much, and yet you give more, love more, and of course when you open yourselves up, you can ‘lose’ more. But Lori, would you have it any other way? I am so, so very sorry for your parting from Max. And I am so happy for the love you gave, and got. You have my deepest, most sincere sympathy and appreciation. Please, stay with us and share your feelings, and know we are here with understanding and nothing but kind support. It’s not much, but please accept my {HUG}. Toni
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