Diane
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
Martha, It’s good to hear from you and have you share with us. It’s only been three months since you and Missy parted, and I think the holidays bring up memories that trigger strong emotions – good, and sad. You are always welcome to share more pictures of Missy with us, and if you think a lasting Memorial for her will be healing and helpful, you can create and maintain one in our Memorial tab: https://www.faithfulfriends.com/memorials/.
It took me a long time to welcome a new love into my heart, but I am so filled with her love now that I am glad the time finally came for us. Maybe one day you will be ready, maybe not. Right now you are moving through your grief and missing her among friends who understand and care. We want to hear from you, and about you. I hope this {HUG} carries my sympathy. Stay in touch with us, Martha.-
Thank you Toni. The tears just will not stop. Even when I am not consciously thinking about her they come. I wake up with my pillow wet with them.-
Yes, I get that, Martha. Did you know the chemicals in tears are different when they are from joy vs. grief? Tears can release ‘negative’ chemicals to help heal. Even though my old girl is doing okay now, sometimes I am overcome by tears from deep within – it’s not something we control, nor should we. I think we should each write down a happy memory every day and one day, you’ll be smiling (possibly through tears, but happy for the time you had together). It takes time, Martha. And these darned holidays just don’t help, do they?
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Martha, are you doing a bit better?
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Thank you Toni. Some days I think I am doing better but then, I am right back to crying.
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Yep. That is relatable, and understandable, Martha. I think it’s because the love we share is truly at a deep, soulful level – cellular in a way, and the tears really do come from a place that is different. You stay with us, we’re here for, and with you.
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OH! would you share more pictures of Missy with us if you have some?
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
Shawn, I am, we are, so happy to hear from you again. It’s been a few months and I am sure the holidays make you think of, and miss, Uno and Midnight. Do you have family and friends you can be with? Someone with pets you can love on? Shawn, do think you will welcome another pet into your home and heart? You know, you are always welcome to share more pictures and stories about Uno and Midnight with us – we love that, and maybe it will be good for you to revisit your times together with us. We understand how little things can trigger big feelings, how the seasons bring memories, and we are here for you. I’m sending you a {HUG}… -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
I can see many, many, many…. pets (and maybe a few human little ones) scheming and preparing, like this too…….. I hope everyone shares holiday pics of their pets with us 🙂 -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
Geri, when you love a lot, you lose a lot, too. Sometimes it seems to come in bunches. In a three year period I lost my father, husband, 19 year old cat, and my mother. It was like living in a cycle of grief. Now I am on edge about my 18 year old cat, but remind myself to enjoy our time together because no amount of my worrying will keep time from moving and life progressing. Just as we need to allow ourselves to enjoy, we need to grieve so we can heal, everyone in their own way and their own time. Thank you for sharing your stories, and sharing your sympathy and understanding with others. Toni -
Toni Noel posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
THIS is why we created Faithful Friends – to share our stories and seek, and send, our support when facing or going through the most difficult times (and to celebrate our happy times). While we don’t like to part from our beloveds, we wouldn’t miss the loving, fun times we shared. And adopting an animal to provide a wonderful home is such a kind, generous thing to do, we keep doing it even after saying goodbye to others. I learn a lot from my pets – Live ’til you die. And if life becomes too challenging, we give them the grace of a peaceful passing. Love isn’t hard, love doesn’t go away when they do, it just hurts in a deep part of our soul. And one day, a memory will bring smiles and warmth to you, what our pets intended all along. Please continue to reach out to others here with YOUR stories, and support. Not just at this season, but always, be grateful for your time with your pets. We are grateful to have you be a part of our caring community. Tobi
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
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Toni Noel posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
@kathy61 Hi Kathleen. I am sorry for your loss of Cane. Are you doing okay? Please tell about Cane, your lives together, and share some pictures with us.
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Yes, this is so hard, Dianne. Even if you had looked for her, she was probably already gone. Oscar and Princess, like you, will be missing her. Seeing places she used to go will bring her to mind, and your sadness and pain will take time to heal. One day, you will find yourself smiling with her memory, but not just now. Share lots of love and sympathy with Oscar and Princess, and let them love you back. I am so sorry. -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Hi Dianne. How are you, Oscar and Princess coming along today? -
Toni Noel posted an update 5 years ago
@pugmom4 Hello Daphne, and welcome to our caring community. Please tell us about Annie Jo. By any chance was she a Pug? (I bought a sweatshirt with a cute pug on it yesterday!). We’d love to see some pictures of her, and hear about your lives together. How are you doing? Toni
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Yes, that is a loss they mourn with you. You all need one another more than ever right now. Extra helpings of love all around. -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
I am glad you feel her energy, and relief. How are your other pets doing with this?-
Oscar walks around looking for her.He is mourning her.Princess is lost without George.-
Yes, that is a loss they mourn with you. You all need one another more than ever right now. Extra helpings of love all around.
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Of course, Dianne. I think you are right. She seemed ready. We never are. {HUGS} -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Oh Dianne. She seemed to want to go outside lately, didn’t she? I wonder if she was so unwell, she wanted “out” literally. Yes, you feel guilty but I truly think that’s not true. I’ll share my story to tell you why I think you didn’t have a choice about it for her: My kitten Nicki never wanted to go outside. I had to pick her up and take her. One night my cat Chivo came in the sliding doors and Nicki jumped over her to get out – it was very strange for her to do. After awhile, when Nicki didn’t come in, I sent Chivo to look for her and Chivo came back and I knew, just knew, that Nicki had been hit and killed by a car. Guilt is a huge part of what we feel, but I really think Nicki was somehow compelled to go out. That may sound odd, but she NEVER went out on her own, and to jump over Chivo (who was her adopted mother) was way out of character. So, I’m not sure we have the control over their actions as much as we would like. Of course I am, and we all are, just devastated for you, and her. I know how you have worried each moment about her health challenges. I am so sad and sorry, and I hope you will allow yourself to grieve with kindness for yourself, and that soon you will find happiness with the memories you made together. Toni-
Toni,Mama George has never wanted outside.Until the last week.She got out once.Then we were all sitting in the house and nobody noticed she got out.But I think she knew she was ready to go “home”.My heart is broken.
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Of course, Dianne. I think you are right. She seemed ready. We never are. {HUGS}
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Susan, not only is the sentiment true, the puppy in the picture is too adorable. I will suggest that people who have any furry, finned, feathered or scaled friend awaiting is a lucky human 🙂 Don’t you think? My cat always runs to greet me – I think she really wants a tummy rub and back scratch, but like to think she’s happy to see me……… -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Tabetha, anniversaries and holidays, especially the first year, can be brutal with the memories they stir. I hope you will allow yourself to acknowledge and express your grief at this time more than ever. I am sure even little things trigger big emotions and there’s nothing for it but to feel it. I suspect Ladybug would, and does, send you her gratitude for a life of love you shared, and wants you to have smiles before tears when you think of her, and the 18 wheeling fun….We’re here for you not only at this time, but always, and I hope you will touch base often, even if, maybe especially if, you are hurting. I’ll be thinking of you, and hope this {HUG} helps you a little bit. Toni -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
You have every reason to be angry and still in tremendous pain, Cathy. I can’t speak to what happened at the vet, but the shock and loss would bring any of us to our knees. Would you like to speak with a trained, professional grief counselor? Glenn Swain (Rev. but non-denominational) has made his services available to our community at a discount. You can click here to schedule with him if you like: https://www.faithfulfriends.com/grief-counseling/
It seems to me you are dealing with two distinct, powerful challenges: Sadness and despair at Sheba’s passing and all the strong emotions any death of a beloved pet carries; and flat out anger at the result of the barium. Perhaps you could discuss the procedure she had with some other veterinarians – they may be able to explain how and why that happened. Please, let us know what you do, and what you find out, and how you are moving through this. I am so very sorry. Toni -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Oh Kathy, I am so sorry and understand. It really isn’t that long since July, and I think holidays bring up memories and strong emotions. It sounds as if you took wonderful care of, and showered lots of love on Prince. He looks so happy in the photo. Do you know if he was a Russian Blue? I had a cat that looked like Prince who was a Russian Blue. Kathy, if you like, in our Shop we have a book/journal – “Griffin’s Heart” – written by a lovely gal who had a tough time working through her grief when her beloved cat, Griffin, passed. I think it may help you. https://www.faithfulfriends.com/shop/griffins-heart-pet-loss-book/
It’s good that you know we are here for you to talk with, to share your pain, and I hope your smiles come before tears soon. Please keep us posted on how you are doing, and feel welcome to share more photos with us. Sending you {HUGS}. Toni -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 5 years ago
Dianne, how are things going for you all? I didn’t know you had Princess and Oscar, too. It’s nice to see all three of their pictures. Thank you for sharing those with us. - Load More
