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Dianne Kurtz posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
Martha, It’s good to hear from you and have you share with us. It’s only been three months since you and Missy parted, and I think the holidays bring up memories that trigger strong emotions – good, and sad. You are always welcome to share more pictures of Missy with us, and if you think a lasting Memorial for her will be healing and helpful, you can create and maintain one in our Memorial tab: https://www.faithfulfriends.com/memorials/.
It took me a long time to welcome a new love into my heart, but I am so filled with her love now that I am glad the time finally came for us. Maybe one day you will be ready, maybe not. Right now you are moving through your grief and missing her among friends who understand and care. We want to hear from you, and about you. I hope this {HUG} carries my sympathy. Stay in touch with us, Martha.-
Thank you Toni. The tears just will not stop. Even when I am not consciously thinking about her they come. I wake up with my pillow wet with them.-
Yes, I get that, Martha. Did you know the chemicals in tears are different when they are from joy vs. grief? Tears can release ‘negative’ chemicals to help heal. Even though my old girl is doing okay now, sometimes I am overcome by tears from deep within – it’s not something we control, nor should we. I think we should each write down a happy memory every day and one day, you’ll be smiling (possibly through tears, but happy for the time you had together). It takes time, Martha. And these darned holidays just don’t help, do they?
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Martha, are you doing a bit better?
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Thank you Toni. Some days I think I am doing better but then, I am right back to crying.
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Yep. That is relatable, and understandable, Martha. I think it’s because the love we share is truly at a deep, soulful level – cellular in a way, and the tears really do come from a place that is different. You stay with us, we’re here for, and with you.
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OH! would you share more pictures of Missy with us if you have some?
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Dianne Kurtz posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
It has been eight days since mama has been gone.
I really hope no pet parent has to undergo what I have been through.Getting a knock at my door,and someone holding Mama’s collar saying she got hit and killed…AND…having to go pick up her lifeless body and the bury her.I feel guilty about it.She would be 15 next April,and had dementia and was visually impaired.I hope she felt no pain.
I am trying so hard to get over her accident,but I can’t.I wake up looking for her.I have been telling her good night,and that I am so sorry she got hit.
I am having a hard time dealing with it.
When I had to put my senior Sheltie to sleep due to cancer,it was extremely hard on me because I adopted her when she was over a year and a half old.But with George,I raised her from a seven week old kitten.It was very hard on me when I had to put Bessie my Sheltie to sleep.She was my travelling companion,my sleeping companion,but most of all my best friend.
So see,I have a lot to deal with.-
Dianne, of course you are still reeling. It’s only been a very short time since George is gone. And in such a shocking way. I still think it was her destiny – that she was compelled to go out. Guilt comes naturally after an experience like yours, but I think you are the only one seeing it that way. She was ailing and is now at peace. I shared the story of my dear little kitten, Nicki, who never went out and one night threw herself out the door and got hit and killed. I know how guilty I felt, but truly think they have a design of their own. It’s good to have you share your feelings with us. Please let us know, as often as you like, how you are doing. Share some more pictures, and tell us about Oscar, Princess and Irish. How many cats do you have? It’s wonderful of you to share with them and I hope they are bringing you some comfort. HUGS…Toni
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I have two cats.The reason I believe Irish is staying inside is to comfort Oscar.He loved George too.
I am beginning to accept the fact that George wanted to go out,because she was ready to go on her terms.And maybe she did.I am trying my best to cope.-
You should still be very emotional – it’s only been a week. You are wrestling with so many thoughts and feelings, and the only way to go is straight through, which you are doing . That’s why we’re here for and with you – to let you share and get it all out. Hang in there, Dianne.
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Hi Dianne. How are you today? Oscar?
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Dianne, I am sorry for the loss of your dear baby. Hugs and prayers 🙏
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Cody posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
We’re here with you, Martha. That is a great photo of Missy.-
/hank you Cody. She was my life. I am a senior disabled widow and it was just her and I.
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Cody posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
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Thank you.He is a sweet baby.
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Dianne Kurtz posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
This is Irish.My outside cat who is now inside.He is afraid of motorized vehicles.-
So cute!
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Thank you.He is a sweet baby.
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Martha posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
Nothing new here. I am just with the grace of God, managing to make it day by day. Life is so very lonely without my precious Missy.-
We’re here with you, Martha. That is a great photo of Missy.
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/hank you Cody. She was my life. I am a senior disabled widow and it was just her and I.
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Martha, It’s good to hear from you and have you share with us. It’s only been three months since you and Missy parted, and I think the holidays bring up memories that trigger strong emotions – good, and sad. You are always welcome to share more pictures of Missy with us, and if you think a lasting Memorial for her will be healing and helpful, you can create and maintain one in our Memorial tab: https://www.faithfulfriends.com/memorials/.
It took me a long time to welcome a new love into my heart, but I am so filled with her love now that I am glad the time finally came for us. Maybe one day you will be ready, maybe not. Right now you are moving through your grief and missing her among friends who understand and care. We want to hear from you, and about you. I hope this {HUG} carries my sympathy. Stay in touch with us, Martha.-
Thank you Toni. The tears just will not stop. Even when I am not consciously thinking about her they come. I wake up with my pillow wet with them.
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Yes, I get that, Martha. Did you know the chemicals in tears are different when they are from joy vs. grief? Tears can release ‘negative’ chemicals to help heal. Even though my old girl is doing okay now, sometimes I am overcome by tears from deep within – it’s not something we control, nor should we. I think we should each write down a happy memory every day and one day, you’ll be smiling (possibly through tears, but happy for the time you had together). It takes time, Martha. And these darned holidays just don’t help, do they?
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Martha, are you doing a bit better?
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Thank you Toni. Some days I think I am doing better but then, I am right back to crying.
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Yep. That is relatable, and understandable, Martha. I think it’s because the love we share is truly at a deep, soulful level – cellular in a way, and the tears really do come from a place that is different. You stay with us, we’re here for, and with you.
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OH! would you share more pictures of Missy with us if you have some?
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
Shawn, I am, we are, so happy to hear from you again. It’s been a few months and I am sure the holidays make you think of, and miss, Uno and Midnight. Do you have family and friends you can be with? Someone with pets you can love on? Shawn, do think you will welcome another pet into your home and heart? You know, you are always welcome to share more pictures and stories about Uno and Midnight with us – we love that, and maybe it will be good for you to revisit your times together with us. We understand how little things can trigger big feelings, how the seasons bring memories, and we are here for you. I’m sending you a {HUG}… -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
I can see many, many, many…. pets (and maybe a few human little ones) scheming and preparing, like this too…….. I hope everyone shares holiday pics of their pets with us 🙂 -
Susan posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
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I can see many, many, many…. pets (and maybe a few human little ones) scheming and preparing, like this too…….. I hope everyone shares holiday pics of their pets with us 🙂
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Shawn posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
Nothing new just making it day to day
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Shawn, I am, we are, so happy to hear from you again. It’s been a few months and I am sure the holidays make you think of, and miss, Uno and Midnight. Do you have family and friends you can be with? Someone with pets you can love on? Shawn, do think you will welcome another pet into your home and heart? You know, you are always welcome to share more pictures and stories about Uno and Midnight with us – we love that, and maybe it will be good for you to revisit your times together with us. We understand how little things can trigger big feelings, how the seasons bring memories, and we are here for you. I’m sending you a {HUG}…
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Dianne Kurtz posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
I am so sorry for your loss. -
Dianne Kurtz posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
Thank you.I am so sorry for your loss as well. -
Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
Geri, when you love a lot, you lose a lot, too. Sometimes it seems to come in bunches. In a three year period I lost my father, husband, 19 year old cat, and my mother. It was like living in a cycle of grief. Now I am on edge about my 18 year old cat, but remind myself to enjoy our time together because no amount of my worrying will keep time from moving and life progressing. Just as we need to allow ourselves to enjoy, we need to grieve so we can heal, everyone in their own way and their own time. Thank you for sharing your stories, and sharing your sympathy and understanding with others. Toni -
Toni Noel posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
THIS is why we created Faithful Friends – to share our stories and seek, and send, our support when facing or going through the most difficult times (and to celebrate our happy times). While we don’t like to part from our beloveds, we wouldn’t miss the loving, fun times we shared. And adopting an animal to provide a wonderful home is such a kind, generous thing to do, we keep doing it even after saying goodbye to others. I learn a lot from my pets – Live ’til you die. And if life becomes too challenging, we give them the grace of a peaceful passing. Love isn’t hard, love doesn’t go away when they do, it just hurts in a deep part of our soul. And one day, a memory will bring smiles and warmth to you, what our pets intended all along. Please continue to reach out to others here with YOUR stories, and support. Not just at this season, but always, be grateful for your time with your pets. We are grateful to have you be a part of our caring community. Tobi
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Geri Clark posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
Hi everyone, I am sorry for all of your losses. I know how everyone feels. 11 years ago, I lost my mom and nine months after her death, I had to put my Maltese to sleep. My mom had four adult cats when she passed away, and I had two adult cats. I took her 4 cats in Plus my two. One of the cats, I found a good family for, because after my mom passed away she refused to use the cat litter. I did not want to put her to sleep because she was still in good health. The vet believes she was feeling the loss of my mom. But I was working two jobs, and when I come home and found the house a mess because she refused to use the litter, it was just too much on me. I took care of the other cats for quite a few years then in 2016, the first of the oldest, had several strokes so I had him put to sleep. He was not live in a very good quality life. He could hardly walk or eat. My mom had a Russian blue cat, she was beautiful. She had four kittens, but they were only part Russian blue. She ended up with the renal failure so I had to put her to sleep the following year 2017. Then in 2018, I lost one of my cats. I had two cats left, and we were leading a pretty good life. I also retired in 2017, but kept on working for another year. I decided to take a year off from work, and in December 2019, I lost one of my mothers cats. Then in January 20 20, I lost my cat. I ended up adopting a black Labrador retriever named Syrus, before either one of them passed away, and they all got along. Then I adopted another cat, And his name is Hex. Syrus and Hex have become great friends. I went back to work this year, because of inflation. I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving, and I will forward pictures from Thanksgiving next week.-
Geri, when you love a lot, you lose a lot, too. Sometimes it seems to come in bunches. In a three year period I lost my father, husband, 19 year old cat, and my mother. It was like living in a cycle of grief. Now I am on edge about my 18 year old cat, but remind myself to enjoy our time together because no amount of my worrying will keep time from moving and life progressing. Just as we need to allow ourselves to enjoy, we need to grieve so we can heal, everyone in their own way and their own time. Thank you for sharing your stories, and sharing your sympathy and understanding with others. Toni
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Cathy posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
Dianne
I sure understand how you feel. I am dealing with guilt for taking my Sheba to the vet that day. We love them and when bad things happen we do feel guilty. Praying that we can all oneday live with the happy memories of our fur babies and know that they had good lives in the time with us.-
Thank you.I am so sorry for your loss as well.
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Dianne Kurtz posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
Where do I begin? I am having a tough time dealing with my mama cat’s death.I have a range of mixed emotions going on.
But,if I had mama put to sleep,it may have been easier for me to deal with.. I don’t know.
I feel lost without her.Last year my mom died on April 4th.Then 12 days later my 14& 1/2 year old Sheltie passed away from cancer.
So everything I love,seems to be taken from me.
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Toni Noel posted a new activity comment 4 years, 12 months ago
Thinking of you and yours, Dianne -
Toni Noel posted an update 4 years, 12 months ago
@kathy61 Hi Kathleen. I am sorry for your loss of Cane. Are you doing okay? Please tell about Cane, your lives together, and share some pictures with us.
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